On sexuality in growing up girls

One of the most unfortunate developments in modern parenting is the policing of girls and their bodies. From a very young age, girls come to realize that they do not own their bodies, society does. They do not get to choose the clothes they want to wear. If they talk too much to boys, they’re made to feel ashamed. If anything goes wrong, they are victim-blamed by us and this scars them for the rest of their lives.

We should try not to become the kind of parents our daughters lie and hide things from. Some of these things might be uncomfortable but they are natural part of growing up. Help her navigate the modern, fast-paced world that she will have to no doubt face one day.

Yes, you are going to have to have difficult conversations. About periods, about boys, about dating, about sex. Make your home an honest and safe space where your daughter can articulate and express who she is and wants to be. Discipline her with the language of love, don’t judge her, don’t shame her. Yes you might be disappointed, but if you make your daughter feel worthless, you could lose her trust and pressingly so, you might break her.

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